Seeking therapy can be a crucial step in addressing mental health challenges, but it can be a challenge to be vulnerable for children, teens, and young adults to ask their parents for help. There are times that a child can be very open and ask for help because they can see they are struggling and would like someone to talk to. Other times kids and young people can be very guarded and despite the struggle they are going through they won’t ask for help or other times be completely unaware they are struggling mentally. We encourage kids to be open and honest with their parents and for parents to check in with their children to see how they are doing. In this article, we’ll discuss how to recognize when you need help and provide guidance on how to ask your parents for therapy.
Recognizing “I Need Help with My Mental Health, Now”
First and foremost, it’s essential to recognize when you’re struggling with your mental health. Maybe you are holding back on talking with your parents because you may believe you are overthinking or are not really struggling. Below are some signs to look out for. If you are experiencing these “symptoms”, then you may want to consider having that convo with your folks.
- Persistent Sadness or Anxiety: If you often feel sad, anxious, or overwhelmed, it’s important to acknowledge those feelings.
- Changes in Behavior: Sudden changes in how you act, such as withdrawing from friends or losing interest in activities you used to enjoy, can indicate distress.
- Difficulty Concentrating: Struggling to focus in school or feeling unfocused in daily life can be a sign of underlying issues.
- Negative Self-Talk: If you find yourself thinking things like, “I’m not good enough” or “I’m a failure,” it’s essential to address these thoughts.
- Physical Symptoms: Headaches, stomachaches, or changes in sleep and eating habits can also be indicators of mental health struggles.
Recognizing these signs could be the first step in getting you the mental health support that you may need.
How Do I Ask My Parents for Therapy?
Ok, you have determined you do want some extra help and the next step would be to talk about that with your parents, which we understand can feel daunting. Below are some ways to approach this conversation with your parent(s):
- Choose the Right Time: Find a calm moment when your parents aren’t busy or distracted. A quiet setting can help facilitate an open dialogue.
- Be Honest and Direct: Start the conversation by expressing your feelings. You might say something like, “I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately, and I think talking to someone could help.”
- Use “I” Statements: Frame your feelings with “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, “I feel sad and anxious, and I’d like to talk to a therapist about it.”
- Explain Why Therapy is Important: Share your thoughts on how therapy could benefit you. Mention that it can provide support and help you learn coping strategies.
- Prepare for Questions: Your parents may have questions or concerns. Be ready to answer them honestly and calmly.
- Be Patient: Understand that your parents may need time to process your request. If they’re unsure, offer to discuss it further or suggest doing some research together.
Parent Support
For parents who already recognize that their kid may need some additional support, one effective way to facilitate this conversation is by using resources like a feelings wheel (you can find one here). Additionally, consider creative methods such as drawing or playing games like Emotional Rollercoaster, Mad Dragon, or CBTIGER, all of which can be found on Amazon. These activities provide a fun and engaging way for children to express their feelings and open up a dialogue with you.
Our Therapists Are Here to Help Chicago Kids and Teens Overcome Their Mental Health Challenges
Taking the initial step to asking your parents for therapy is a HUGE move toward a happier and healthier life. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey—Marwil & Associates are here to support you and your family! We specialize in helping children and teens overcome mental health challenges, providing a safe space to express feelings and learn coping strategies. Start the conversation today and take the first step toward a healthier future.
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